What is Anger in Grief, and How Can I Manage it?

Anger might look like having harsh or unrealistic expectations for self or others, lashing out at self or others, tension in the body, inability to relax the body, feeling like you might explode at any moment.

How to Be With It:

Let the fire burn, but don't let it consume you. Scream into a pillow, write furious letters you'll never send, or pound your fists against the ground. Anger is not the enemy; it's the voice of your pain. Listen to it.

Tangible, Creative Actions:

Shatter and Rebuild: Find old plates or ceramics at a thrift store, smash them (safely), and then use the pieces to create a mosaic. Let the act of breaking and rebuilding symbolize your anger and resilience.

Write a Rant Poem: Pour your anger into a poem that doesn't rhyme, doesn't make sense, and doesn't hold back. Let it be raw and unfiltered. Scream into the Ocean: If you're near water, stand at the edge and let the waves carry your screams away. If not, scream into a pillow or a closed car.